Help! Bnos Avigail seminary | Imamother (2024)

Is this a longstanding relationship that Mrs. Advisor knows your DD and knows what is or isn't for her? Or is this her opinion that applies universally to anyone who contacts her?

Just FTR....my DD's very close friend - a lovely Lakewood girl who originally hails from OOT, went to BA. Solid frum girl, mult-talented, smart, and lots of fun. Great middos too.
Also a very in-town neighborhood girl I know went to BA - solid frum family originally from Brooklyn.

So I'm not sure where Mrs. Advisor gets her info from...with all due respect.

My thoughts exactly. Really inappropriate to make comments like that.

I was shocked as well when this woman told me this info as I have nothing to do with her. Principal advised me to call her and explain our background + seminary choices as she’s a N.Y. seminary advisor/educator for 20 yrs and knows it all, while we including DD’s school doesn’t.

Again she didn’t say negative things about seminary. Rather it seemed that in her opinion should a traditional BY girl have other “better” options because of her grades and recommendations, she should take them.

We do know trustworthy NY/NJ people. the problem IMO is that my Lakewood family is too yeshivish while 5 towns family are too jappy.

My DD applied here because (1) she liked the way the school teaches based on their website and brochure (2) heard nice things about the girls and lastly (3) not too keen on the “top” choices given to her by her HS seminary advisor.

I Am not making a stand only providing a DP for everyone. But after DD called 5 random girls, it turns out that (1) one girl was from a divorced home (2) parents are BT (3) Russian (4) girl had school jumped multiple times and (5) was your typical B”Y girl.

Final note - when my MIL heard which schools DD turned down, “she was very surprised. She felt the other seminaries have better reputations/name recognition and more to offer her, and hopes that DD is not going to regret it.”

Yikes! I of course did not relay these thoughts to DD.

This whole conversation took place after paying the deposit, but B”H it was not a factor in the decision.

In the end, my daughter is sticking with her BA choice and ignoring the negative implications what the “professional” educator and shadchan says.

If I had to guess as to the reason, it’s because my DH has always drilled into my kids that being different can be good. A lesson can be learnt from everyone. Whether that means that a girl is a BT, Russian, divorced or broken home - who cares. Look at the girl herself!
Of course sadly this is not the way our Jewish world works for the most part.

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Even Neveh wasn't too happy about that and distanced themselves from the things she said on the topic.

A lot of stuff in the OP was pure assumption (not attacking you OP- just clarifying for those reading.) Please feel free to PM! I can speak from my personal experience going there.

Rebbitzen Heller.

It is in Har Nof, on the Neve campus.

HUH? My neighbor sent her daughter to Bnos Avigayil and she is a great girl. Rebbetzin Heller is fantastic. It's so crazy that we send our daughters to a year in Israel so far away from us and we have never been to actually see the seminary! Nerve wracking.

Yes she made a mistake on this, but it doesn't take away from her years of experience with seminary girls and she is a brilliant woman.
I wonder if she took back her statements.